Just before I write about next weeks topic in this series (Going Out), I just wanted to say what a great night was had at FNC last night talking about Being Single!
Thanks to all who made it so: the musos and singers, everyone who got into the memory verse, Sarah who shared about Africa, Sam who led, and all the people who asked great questions around the discussion tables during supper… Great stuff!

If we are right about the Bible’s teaching that all Christians should be either single and celibate or married and monogamous, it raises the question how do you move from the state of singleness to that of marriage?

In some cultures, Mum and Dad take care of all that. They arrange a marriage and neither the bloke nor the girl are given any choice in the matter. In our culture do things differently. We invented ‘going out’ or ‘dating’. This is the slightly strange ritual whereby two people (who may or may not already know each other) dress up in a way that would not otherwise do, and spend an evening trying to impress the other person by pretending to be someone they are not.
The guys get awkward and embarrassed and the girls giggle a lot. But it’s not until after the picnic/dinner/movie or whatever, that many couples begin the real manoeuvring. And it’s all to resolve the burning question: To have sex or not?

If we believe the propaganda of the media ( ”Samantha doesn’t believe in sex on the first date, but she believes in sex straight after it.” – Sex And the City), this is ‘normal’. In the world, dating is designed to lead to sex.
But any Christian knows this is not good and not as God intended.
So what are issues for single Christians interested in marriage and open to meeting someone? Is there such a thing a “Christian dating” (“One regular date please, but hold the sex!”)?
Or is there a better way?

What do you think?

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